It is the assessment you have of yourself. It can be positive or negative. It is formed with the thoughts, feelings, sensations, and experiences that you have been having about your image throughout your life. They can be positive, high self-esteem, or vice versa, an uncomfortable feeling of not being what you want, low self-esteem.
Why is self-esteem important?
- With high self-esteem, you feel good about yourself. You appreciate your worth. You are proud of your abilities, abilities, and achievements.
- With low self-esteem, you feel that you will not like anyone, that nobody will accept you or that you are not good at anything.
- Good or bad self-esteem will influence all aspects of your life, in the formation of your personality and also in your happiness.
And how is self-esteem formed?
It is formed from birth. It is the relationship between the genetic temperament and the environment in which you live. Everything is assimilated and internalized. It can vary throughout life.
Personal (body image, physical and intellectual abilities, etc.)
Famous people (parents, siblings, teachers, friends or others)
Social (values, culture, beliefs, etc.).
As you can see, self-esteem is very linked to the society in which you are born and live.
Children’s self-esteem influences the global. It is the most delicate period. When you are born, you have a close relationship with your parents, especially with your mother. The loved and protected you feel will make you feel like someone famous and valuable. This is the beginning of self-esteem. As your self-esteem grows, it changes, as you interact with other family members, classmates, teachers, neighbors, etc.
The adolescent’s self-esteem tends to diminish due to the physical changes that your body has. It begins to matter to you not to be reciprocated by friends or by the group to which you belong. The changes also influence the transition from primary to secondary school and sometimes the transfer of school.
Two things in particular influence your self-esteem:
how are you seen and treated by others
how you perceive yourself
When you were little, parents, teachers and other authority figures influenced the ideas you had about yourself. If you suffered more criticism than praise, you are less likely to have developed healthy self-esteem. It is also easy for teenagers, who are still forming values and beliefs, to build your image based on what the people around say.
But criticism does not always come from others. You can also go from yourself acting as an “inner critic.” If this criticism is negative, you can damage your self-esteem as much as if it came from the outside. If you see yourself with the qualities you admire, you will probably have high self-esteem. You know in yourself the qualities that you admire, and you can develop low self-esteem, sometimes what happens is that you are not able to appreciate the great qualities that you have.
What will self-esteem be for?
– Acceptance of yourself
You must value your qualities. But you also have to take the flaws into account and assume them as part of yourself.
– Respect towards you
The value you give will give you the qualities that others will recognize you. Only the one who is respected can be respected and their needs respected.
– Respect to the others
Accept differences without contempt or intolerance towards other people. It is achieved with empathy and proper treatment.
– Personal formation
Dedicate time to the formation of your brain. Intelligence is the result of brain work and can grow if you exercise it. The performance depends on the effort that you put, and this will be greater if the self-esteem is positive.
Behaviors indicative of high self-esteem
– Be willing to learn and try something new.
– Be optimistic about the future.
– Establish objectives and goals.
– Be safe and be responsible for the acts themselves.
– Know the strengths and weaknesses and accept criticism.
– Be self-critical. Learn from mistakes. Face failures and problems.
– Trust in oneself and one’s ability to influence the facts.
– Have emotional stability. Be able to say yes or no. Know how to love and be loved.
– Have ease for communication and to have friends.
Expectations: proper mental, emotional, sexual, social health.
Behaviors indicative of low self-esteem
– Reject study, sports or social activities for fear of failure.
– Lack of compromise.
– Cheat. Lie. Blame others.
– Regressive behaviors (becoming the little one).
– Do not trust yourself. Believe that you do not have control capability. Unsafe attitude.
– Lack of trust, respect, and appreciation of others.
– Excessive shyness. Aggressiveness, violence, defiant attitude or non-social behaviors.
– Continuous need to call attention and approval.
– Lack of discipline.
Expectations: the risk of drug abuse, mental illness, eating disorders and problems with society.
Do you want to improve your self-esteem? Here are some tips to start :
– Stop having negative thoughts about yourself. Do not focus on your faults, start thinking about positive aspects. When you realize that you are too critical of yourself, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day writes down three things about you that make you happy.